Day Thirty, Bonus post

As I was going about my day, I had thoughts that I jotted down because they resonated with my sensibilities. If they don’t yours, that’s okay.

  • Know what you want and make it happen.
  • Fall in love with everything always, every day.
  • Don’t forget to look up to the falling leaves. Their promises have already been met.
  • Keep moving, even if it’s a sidestep. (Miss Marge used to tell me that was the secret to a long life, keep moving. I added the sidestep because I’m prone to misadventures and being lost).
  • Desire paths are not always according to the plans of the well intentioned.

This is a quote I read today in an article about “Desire paths.”

“You’ve just taken a “desire path,” described by Robert Macfarlane as “paths & tracks made over time by the wishes & feet of walkers, especially those…that run contrary to design or planning”; he calls them “free-will ways.” Robert Moor offers other terms, such as ‘cow paths,’ ‘pirate paths,’ ‘social trails,’ ‘kemonomichi (beast trails),’ ‘chemins de l’ane (donkey paths)’, and ‘Olifantenpad (elephant trails).’ JM Barrie described them as ‘Paths that have made themselves.’

Day Thirty, A long day

I have difficulties sleeping. The last few nights have, even without coffee, been a practice in very late nights very early mornings. The challenge of the realtor visits is that I don’t want to be here when they are. I can’t contribute anything to the conversation, the place is too small for multiple people, and I just know that the “perfect” me would notice things “Real Me” had not. Best to get out of dodge and go see the world.

This morning? Last night? It was around 6AM when I finally fell asleep. Although I’m exercising a lot more and drinking less coffee than I would at home, I’m struggling. I was in a deep, warm, comfortable sleep when loudspeaker’s loud chanting voices woke me up. The music was upbeat and sincere. The chanting voices were raised in protest against something. The only word I could make out was Pourquoi (Why).

I willed them to continue on their way, but they stopped right under my tiny window, played two songs, marched on with a trail of equally loud chanting. I’d been asleep for 4 1/2 hours. Ugh.

I checked the time and my messages. The realtor wanted to make a visit today and tomorrow according to the host. I really don’t like feeling displaced by something I wasn’t aware of when I booked this place. Meh. I asked if they could do both visits tomorrow instead. Nope. Both visits would be today but none for tomorrow. Hooray!

I looked up the department of tourism for Caen, Normandie, France. The website was in both English and French which was great, but one of the events I was interested in (A Science exhibition at the Universitie de Normandie) didn’t have an address. It had a great write up, which is why I became interested, but the address was the name of a road.

I attempted to call but the woman who answered the phone didn’t understand or speak English. She managed to request I call back in five minutes. I told her yes. I waited. At the appointed time, I made another call. Nope. Same woman. Two minutes more please. (What I actually understood was: Sorry, Two, Please.

I felt a bit deterred, but Dude’s I’m in their country, I should at least have a rudimentary grasp on the language. Baby words is how I describe the knowledge I have. It’s been a handicap but not a disability.

I was able to gleen that the Science Exhibition was taking place on Campus 2. Hey! I know that the tram goes there. I did a Twisto search and Voila! I got dressed, put on a sweater today (22 mph winds all day with spotty rain), and went to the tram station.

The tram was clean although a bit crowded. It was lunch time so there is a transitional period. As each stop was announced, I started to feel a bit anxious. Would what I’m looking to do be where I think it is? What if I got it wrong? What if it’s a different stop? The inner dialogue can get noisy.

Abide, Dude. You’re killing time anyway, what difference does it make when you get to somewhere you don’t know where? Eat when you’re hungry, drink when you’re thirsty, rest when you need to, but keep abiding. That’s what I kept telling myself and it helped me slow my roll(s).

The end of the line, route termine’. I exited the tram in the rush of students. They were heading generally in the same direction. I can see how people end up in a crowd mentality. It felt like I could hear the collective saying, “We know where we’re going. Follow us.” Obediently, I cautiously followed.

AHA! On the ground in red spray-painted letters, Science Exhibition this way! My confidence leapt forward. I was really going to find it! As the crowd broke off in different directions, I found another sign on the sidewalk pointing me on the path. The wind was wickedly blowing, a might bit of a sprinkle, but not drenching. I reached a fork in the path. I took a guess and kept moving forward. I walked around a large bush and I saw the sign!

I took a picture of the map. I used Google’s translator lens to figure out what I was looking at, and moseyed towards the first building on the map. I have learned that Pousser (POO-say) means push and tirer means pull. Sortie is the exit. I was feeling quite proud and confident at this point. That is until I couldn’t understand anything.

Okay, it’s science. Not my forte as a rule although interesting enough to rabbit-hole me at times. But, I was lost. There were no visual clues to what was being discussed. There was a lecturer and a crowd of teenagers mostly listening. I tried to pick out words I know, but no dice. I exited feeling less confident but more curious.

The map said that the different departments were represented by color code but as I observed my surroundings, I came to understand that the map was upside down from my perspective. I went in search of the symbol I understood. Music. It was marked in teal on the map. I came to the courtyard where there was another map showing my changed location, but this one wasn’t upside down from my perspective.

There was an information booth in the center. I asked for directions to the music. Turns out that the concert isn’t until Sunday night. Although I was allowed to experience the exhibits, be aware they’re all in French and today (Friday the 13th) was primarily directed at school aged children. Lucky me! I speak baby word French, so no problem.

I found a cafe inside a building labeled simply SCIENCE. Sounds legit. My curiousity grew as the displays in this particular building were more tangible, more hands on, more engaging. I decided to try again.

I learned that the large black dome-like structure was actually an inflatable planetarium! How freaking cool! Then I found a sandbox display to demonstrate erosion. That turned into a conversation with a knowledgable young man with dark curly hair and brown eyes. I spent the most time with him learning about the ecological effects heavy agriculture does to the environment.

Then he showed me the display next to his which deals in exponential micro-plastics. I can’t remember the name of the effect he told me (a couple times actually), but it’s like…if a fish eats one piece of micro-plastic, it could be okay. But the heron that eats that and 9 other fish is going to have 10 micro-plastics. The bear loves herons and eats 10. That’s 100 micro-plastics. It just keeps getting more and more. This is an extremely simplified version of what I was told, but the more we talked, the more concerned I grew.

SIDENOTE: I read a short article today about how the ecology of the planet has declined with as much as 73% of wildlife being driven from their homes, or eradicated all together. Roadtrips when I was a kid meant we had to stop relatively often to clean the bug butts off the windshield. As I’ve grown into the world around me, it occurred to me that I haven’t had to clean my windshield very much at all. I mean, their bugs, who cares? But bugs are food for other useful species, a necessity to the world.

With what I learned and that trivial bit of knowledge, I was feeling guilty that I contribute so heavily (although not as bad as I used to be) to the decay of our precious planet. But, I did manage to download the DIY plans for a micro-plastics filter for washing machines. Basically, it acts like the lint screen in a dryer works, only it captures the offending plastics that come off our clothing without our knowledge. I’ll see if I can figure out how to give you the link since I got it from a QR code. Does it work on American washers? I don’t know. I’ll have to make one and see.

Okay, exit soapbox. Thank you for indulging me.

I found several other tangible activities that I could understand and follow. It became intriguing to understand. A challenge that I met to my satisfaction. My confidence returned.

As I left the exhibition, the rain was coming down at a pretty good clip, the wind was blowing the trees so hard, they were bending and bowing in protest. I found my way back to the tram and rode back to Rue Saint-Jean. It was a great afternoon and I’m glad I did it.

Peace be with you wherever you are. You are loved!

In the Deep

I’m fragmented by your absence.

Infinitely reformed.

I’m suffering love

the color of tears.

It is salty and dark

It is laborious to breathe.

I’m not afraid

of loving you

as I held you.

I’m conscious of the vulnerability

in which I’m submersed

from our severed physical connection.

My grief is a mere reflection

of our laughter, our conversations

distilled into our unwitting last

“I love you.”

I bring the best parts of us forward with me.

I will not betray our trust.

Your love is a part of who I am now.

No matter how deep the anguish,

There is no regret in cherishing

the you I knew.

Trauma as an Ally

Trauma has become an ally

It has allowed me to see through

many shadowed secrets kept by others

who haven’t figured out

the origami of self-propelled healing

Trauma isn’t my friend, but it knows what I know

It’s circumscribed me

magnifying me in the darkness

It has believed me, revealed unguarded truth

about myself, about others, about what happens if…

I have altered myself; inside out.

It makes it easier to wear my heart on my sleeve

It forces darkness into the light

It keeps me from internalizing

It has revealed me as strong

(although I truly had to ask what that means.)

I was told “Hurt people hurt people”

I have many points of reference for torment

But, I’ve also been the recipient of deep compassion

enduring kindness, and demonstrations of resilience

that have shown me HOW to turn and be inside out

in the most powerful of ways.

Invisibility (Linda Looney)

I am an invisible person.

I’m sure you’ll disagree

But you’ve been well versed in

How to visualize me.

Maybe scorch-eye my belly

Disapprove my thickened thighs

Look down your nose at me ready

to allow me to be humanized

then possibly you’ll witness me

Become familiar and un-stigmatized

TAMP: Looney II Crew

I love people who frame their puzzles

and hang HOME upon their walls

I love the people who are never quiet

even as night-time falls

I love the people I call family

as right as any blood

I love the fam’ly of my heart

who love me like they should.

Diamond and Pearl

For only one as rare as this could be uniquely pure.

The diamond attended to the pearl

born magic in a mundane world

The truth made in error,

filled hearts with deep terror

As the sapphire dismantled the girl

The pearl cast herself before swine

which caused her to cross a line

Denying her birth

she refused her worth

She ran til she unhinged her mind

The diamond polished the pearl

comforted the horrified girl

No longer in error

soothed away terror

Returning her holy to the world.

Bluebirds

Happiness came to visit

dressed in a bright blue suit

with cherry vest

across the breast

The pursuit of happiness

Singing a lilt to their paramour;

Speaking up

not speaking for

Dipping into a lover’s rhythm

flying bilateral prisms

The two move in synchronicity

Happiness loves company

Evolution

Pointing fingers of blame

Screaming, hollering, cursing your name

But love hasn’t died, it has changed

It has evolved into smoke and rain

Before I hate you, before it gets strange

Words of power up again

No words of rage

No, “Please don’t go”

Just anguished tears staged

A separation shallow

Liberty Stolen

My body, this I be (My country tis of thee)

Peace, Joy, Affinity, (Sweet land of liberty)

Youth’s fountain springs (Of thee I sing)

Blood on my mother’s thighs (Land where my father’s died)

Gifts of our sister’s sighs (Land of the Pilgrim’s pride)

At every hearth reside (From every mountainside)

“Hestia, we sing!” (Let freedom ring!)