Maybe if I pretend I’m not breathing.
Maybe if I scream loud enough.
Maybe if I can get out of this room.
Maybe if I can get the clip away from him.
Maybe if I can tell him I need water.
Maybe if I can make it out the door.
Maybe I can make it to my friend’s house.
Maybe if I call the police they’ll protect me.
Maybe if I ducked fast enough I’d be okay.
Domestic violence isn’t funny. It doesn’t happen once. It terrorized me.
My things would come up missing only to be found burned in the back yard. I wasn’t allowed rest because of the mocking from outside my bedroom door that I had to put a lock on to keep him from raping me again. I couldn’t go to my friends without having to check in frequently to make sure I wasn’t doing anything inappropriate which I didn’t.
The first time he hit me was with both of his palms smacked into my shoulders pushing me backwards. I was so surprised that I didn’t respond. When he started going for the face, that was the most difficult. When he pulled the gun I’d gotten for personal protection, putting it to my head, I didn’t want to die. I didn’t want him to be the cause of my death. I chose to flee.
I read years later that he said he didn’t want a divorce. Then why would you beat on your wife? Why would you pull a gun on her? Why would you blame her for your shortcomings? I don’t regret leaving him. I only regret not doing so sooner.
If you’re in a domestic violence situation, or are uncertain whether or not your experiences are abuse, please contact Domestic Violence Hotline, or call 800-799-SAFE (7233). If you have been sexually assaulted, yes, even by your husband/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend, you can find help at R.A.I.N.N. (Rape And Incest National Network) by visiting their website at rainn.org or calling 800 656 HOPE (4673)
You are not alone. Help is out there. You will be okay.